24/7: Said of a BDSM relationship that lasts all day long, every day.
Axilism: is a sexual practice consisting of a man masturbating using the armpits of his or her partner. The skin of the armpits being sensitive to stimulation in some people, the two participants can take pleasure in it and the report leads to a real orgasm. The contact of the hairs (those of the penis and those of the armpits) and the pheromones which emerge from these regions seem to be an erotic stimulus for the adherents to this practice, especially since women who depilate their armpits are in the majority , and that a parallel can be established between the hairiness of the armpits and that of the pubis. The partner can also adjust the pressure on the penis by pressing the elbow more or less against his chest. The pressure exerted on the breast can also cause the woman to reach orgasm. As with the pubis, shaved armpits have their fans. Like masturbation, axilism is a sexual practice considered safe (sécuri-sexe or safer sex).
Aftercare: Period following the session between the top / dominant and the bottom / submissive. It's an important moment when you take care of your partner and allow a smooth return to the real world.
Needles:Often used in hard sm games to pierce the nipple or sex. Pay attention to health and safety conditions. These practices can be dangerous.
ATgeplay: Role play involving a (large) age difference between the two participants.
spreader bar:A spreader bar is an SM accessory used during bondage sessions to restrict the movements of the bottom. It generally consists of a metal bar (the length typically varies from 50 to 100 cm depending on the level of discipline desired) provided with rings at its ends to allow the attachment of handcuffs. It may have other attachment points along its length so that a collar, suspension device, ropes or chains can be attached. There are telescopic spreader bars so their length can vary, but these bars are generally less sturdy than standard bars. Worn at the wrists, the spreader bar keeps the arms away from the body. At the ankles or knees, it immobilizes the wearer by preventing him from moving while offering free access to his crotch. A pair of spreader bars keeps the wearer in the so-called spread-eagle position. Finally, there are spreader bars that close on the neck and wrists called yokes (yoke).
Gag:In the middle of the SM, a gag is an object which makes it possible to deprive the submissive of the word. In some submissives, wearing a gag exacerbates feelings of helplessness, and desire to be gagged for this reason. Indeed, deprived of speech, the submissive cannot communicate his feelings. For this same reason, the dominant places a gag in the mouth of the submissive to stifle his cries of pain. Moreover, the gag has a connotation of control and punishment, like a muzzle for a dog. All of these settings are used as a form of humiliation of the wearer.
Baby girl / Baby boy: Person who identifies with a child or young adult and who is looking for a parental figure.
bdsm
: Bondage and domination, Domination/submission, Sadism & Masochism.
BodyFashion: BodyMode or body modification is a generic term designating a deliberate alteration of one's body, such as tattooing, scarification, receiving skin implants and piercing. In the broadest definition of the term, bodily alteration can include ear piercing, plastic surgery, and male circumcision.
Brat: in general a woman who tends to have the following behaviors: disrespect, rebellion, disobedience, who is mischievous and who responds.
Big: Person who takes the role of a parent / responsible figure or acts as such in a relationship.
Bukkake: is a group sexual practice in which a group of men take turns ejaculating on a person (male or female), preferably on the face. 'Forced bukkake' fetish movies are famous in Japan. The typical situation involves a naive schoolgirl in uniform, or a shy secretary, finding herself tied up and sprayed with cum against her will. Men (sometimes more than a dozen) approach her one by one and masturbate until they ejaculate on her body (most of the time on her face, and in particular her mouth). The 'victim' keeps the cum on her as the next man shows up and repeats the same scenario. You can often see men in the background waiting their turn while masturbating. Generally, at the end of the scene, the person swallows all the sperm they have received. A variant consists in collecting the sperm of several men in a container, so that the person drinks it then. Vale all the sperm which it received, one will speak then about gokkun. A variation is to collect the semen of several men in a container, so that the person then drinks it.
Bondage: Consists of tying and constraining your partner using rope, handcuffs, leather straps, adhesive tape, etc.
Bot / Bottom: During a session, role of the one on whom we practice (for example the one who gets whipped) and who receives the sensations.
Bootblack / Shoe shiner: Person who specializes in polishing shoes during Fetish evenings.
Bunny / rope bunny: A man or a woman who likes to be attached.
Breathplay or erotic asphyxiation. Consists of depriving your partner of air or oxygen, by preventing him from breathing normally or by strangulation. Breathplay is a dangerous activity that falls into the category of Edgeplay.
CBT– Acronym for “Cock and Ball Torture”, torture of the male genitalia.
Caning: inflict pain with a flexible cane, often on the buttocks and the back of the thighs. The cane can be made of wood or plastic.
Nine tailed cat:A cat with nine tails is an instrument of torture - a whip - made up of a wooden handle 30 to 40 cm long to which are attached nine cords or strips of leather varying in length from 40 to 60 cm, each of which moving end ends in a knot. The pirates used it to punish. The sailor who was going to be whipped had to tie the knots himself. A nine-tailed cat was only used once because the bloody strings transmitted infections. The 'cat o'nine tails' was used as a disciplinary sanction in the British army. Suppressed in 1838 in the army, it was nevertheless reinstated a few years later. It was abolished around 1870.
cock ring:Ring to put around the testicles intended to increase male pleasure The testicles must be passed through the retaining ring, however each one separately. Then pass the penis through the ring, in the opposite direction to remove it.
The cuckolding or cuckold: a form of female sexual domination in which a man is sexually aroused by the idea that his legitimate wife or partner has sex with another man while the husband must remain faithful to his wife or even abstain. In this situation: Cuckold designates the man Cuckquean the woman and Bull: “the lover”.
Necklace: Submission symbol.
Consent: permission given unambiguously, completely freely and without pressure. Consent is not an option, it is the cornerstone of BDSM relationships.
CONTRACT: Commitment with symbolic value specific to each BDSM entity, the contract has no form. Used or not, it is used to establish a framework – generally with occasional revision – and/or to define a commitment.
Notary tie:La Cravate de Notaire is a heterosexual sexual practice of masturbation for two. This practice has different names: Mazophallation Intermammary coitus Kinepimastia Mammagymnophilia Hot dog It consists of placing the man's penis between the woman's breasts. In order not to let the penis escape from between her breasts, the woman holds her breasts in order to calm her down. The two breasts enclose and press the penis putting the glans in contact with the skin of the chest. These practices can be preceded, followed, or combined with oral sex. There are two forms of mazophallation known as 'tit tit' (or 'Hispanic masturbation') and 'notary's tie' (or 'notary's tie'). In the first, the penis is facing up from the chest and face. In the second, the penis is on the contrary oriented towards the belly of the partner, the testicles resting on the throat of the latter and thus forming the 'knot' of the tie. Mazophallation can result in ejaculation on the woman's breasts, face, or mouth.
Daddy: A man who takes a protective role in a BDSM relationship.
Dilation:We talk about dilation in certain sexual practices related to SM. These are games intended to satisfy certain fantasies of extraordinary penetrations. Gets along with all kinds of diverse and varied objects. The goal of dilation enthusiasts is to obtain extraordinary flexibility of the orifices - typically vagina or anus - and to obtain increasingly larger insertions. Examples: absorbing round fruit or balloons, bottles, etc. These practices are sometimes done to the detriment of the most basic caution and require a good knowledge of the practitioner's anatomy and abilities. Fisting or fist-fucking is generally associated with dilation practices.
dress code:Dress requirement in some evenings or parties. For example, it is often asked to dress in leather (or vinyl) at fetish or SM parties. In others we will require the wearing of garter belts...
Dominant: Person who seeks to exercise power, authority or control, in general over a submissive person in a D/s relationship (of Domination / submission). For a woman we will speak of Domina.
Doll / Doll: Person who likes to put himself in the state of mind of a doll and who likes to behave like one.
dungeon: the place where a group of people can meet to practice. The dungeon often includes "kinky" furniture: spanking bench, Saint Andrew's cross, cages, etc.).
DM: Dungeon Master, person in charge of the safety of the participants in an evening taking place in a Dungeon. Usually this is an experienced person who is part of the community.
golden shower: practicing ondinism, i.e. urinating on your partner
D/s: Said of a relationship involving a relationship of Domination and submission and an exchange of power.
Slave: Person who submits completely to a Master or a Mistress, in general in a continuous relation (24h/24 and 7d/7). Slaves can be listed in the slave register.
edgeplay: physical or mental activities that involve real or staged risks. Breathplay, knife play, fire play play on limits and fears.
Edging: Bringing his partner to the edge of orgasm and forbidding him to finally give him a more powerful orgasm).
Facial cumshot:Facial ejaculation is a sexual practice which consists, after fellatio, penetration, masturbation or tit fucking, in expelling sperm on the face or in the mouth of the partner. In the latter case, the person can then swallow or spit out the semen, for example in the mouth of the donor (or another partner) during a kiss. This last practice is called making a "snowball". Facial ejaculation is called 'bukkake' when it is performed by several men simultaneously, it is a Japanese specialty that is popular in the pornographic world. Some productions (such as COHF, for Cum on her face) have even specialized in the production of films solely devoted to bukkake. Although facial ejaculation is a classic scene in pornographic films, like any sexual practice, it requires ensuring the consent of your partner. External ejaculation, therefore visible, is another way of filming male enjoyment, which does not show the face of the enjoyer and allows the amateur of pornographic films to depersonify the pleasure of the actor and perhaps even to appropriate it. The face and the mouth are not the only recipients of the semen, all the places of the body which can symbolize the pleasure are a target of the ejaculation, like for example the feet whose sexual fetishism is very widespread. In this precise case, it is even the accessory, ie the shoe with stiletto heels, which can receive the ejaculation, here the ejaculation comes to mean the symbol of pleasure.
face sitting:Facesitting, literally - sitting on the face - is a form of sexual fetishism. As its name suggests, this sexual practice consists of sitting on the face of your partner. During this practice, cunnilingus or rimming can be performed, but a form of choking or crushing can also be sought. Some objects can be used, and the person can be attached for example. Scatology and urophilia can be practiced. It should be noted that this practice, considered as an SM game, is also very present among Fat Admirers (lovers of corpulent women), who seek in this practice either a feeling of extreme crushing, or a form of humiliation.
Enema: perform an anal enema.
In evolution / Evolving: Person who evolves.
Exploring: Person who explores the possibilities offered to him and has not yet settled on a specific role.
Exhibitionist:Person who likes to show his intimacy in public.
Fetishist: Person who practices one or more activities in the field of BDSM with the aim of finding sexual pleasure or not.
Fetish: A sexual fetishism is sexual arousal caused by visual and/or physical contact with an object (the whip), a specific part of the body (the feet) or a situation (the humiliation of one's partner) .
Fetlife: the “Kinky” equivalent of Facebook. You can post statuses, texts or photos. The site allows you to join discussion groups, get in touch with other people and organize events.
Spanking:Spanking is a traditional form of corporal punishment. In some states in the United States, schools may spank unruly students using the paddle. In some countries like Singapore, justice can condemn the culprits of certain crimes to a spanking with a rattan cane. This is very painful and leaves marked marks. Spanking may also be practiced for erotic purposes or domestic discipline between consenting adults. Clubs between adult male spanking enthusiasts were created at the end of the 1980s in France (Club CLEF in 1988), Holland (Castigatio in 1988), England (Club 31 and other clubs), Belgium (Spankclub which now defunct), USA and other western countries. The writer and philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau explained how he had taken a liking to spanking when he received it from the hand of his governess, Miss Lambercier, sister of a pastor with whom he was boarding. The first chapter of the Confessions clearly establishes the link between the spanking received in childhood and the desire to continue to receive it as an adult. Spanking can be administered over clothing, over underwear, or over bare buttocks. Instruments that can be used to administer a spanking [cane, hairbrush, flexible rattan cane (the famous canine as it was practiced in schools in the United Kingdom and in many Commonwealth countries), belt (and belt ) slipper (or sole or slipper, chicotte leather whip used in some African countries such as Congo and Benin, whip, wooden spoon, ferrule, whip, hammer, paddle, ruler, strap, tawse (kind of band of thick leather split over half the length into two or three strips, which was used in Scotland), yards The spanking can be more or less long depending on the case of the condemned and the esteem of the spanking person.
Flogging:Flagellation is an act that consists of whipping the human body with a whip, strips, or a flexible rod, or any other similar object. In BDSM relationships, flogging is a strong symbol of dominance for the one performing it. Flogging is almost always performed lightly, so as not to seriously injure the person being beaten. The flogged person assumes the role of submissive. She offers the parts of her body that her 'master' 'claims' to her. The sexual arousal associated with the situation involves exhibitionism, voyeurism, fetishism and sado-masochism. The judiciously dosed physical stimulation of certain sensitive areas (breasts, buttocks, perineum, sex, etc.) can lead some people to orgasm. Sometimes the submissive person can be attached (handcuffs, bondage, and sometimes on very special furniture (pommel horse, St. Andrew's cross... knowing that the atmosphere is often an integral part of the 'ceremony').
Fisting: Penetration of the complete hand of his partner in the anus or the vagina of his or her partner. Practiced in the right way and with the right preparation, fisting does not present any particular danger.
Fist fucking:Fist-Fucking or fisting, is a sexual practice consisting in penetrating the vagina or the rectum of one's (or one's) partner with the hand (or rather the fist, fist in English). Despite its name, fist-fucking does not imply the penetration of the closed fist into the vagina or the rectum, but rather a slow introduction of the hand whose fingers are kept stretched and grouped in the orifice previously abundantly lubricated and gradually distended. Once the introduction is made, the fist can be closed, or the fingers remain straight. Because of its potential risks, the lack of knowledge, which itself creates risks and fears, pain and sexual taboos, the practice of fist-fucking remains much more confidential than that of other sexual activities. Despite the association usually made between anal fist-fucking and male homosexuality, this practice is just as widespread among heterosexuals. Anal fist-fucking is perceived as pleasant by the men who practice it because of the stimulation of the prostate generated. Similarly, vaginal fisting is practiced by women of any sexual orientation. The rare cases of masturbation in this way are the prerogative of women of particular flexibility
Fireplay: practices including fire for xxx sensations or playing on the fear of fire. (The Fireplay goes into the edgeplay).
furry: Person who identifies strongly with a creature or an animal.
Whip :Ihe whip is an instrument made up of one or more straps, usually made of leather, and a handle. Its uses are linked to its composition: the length of the strap makes it possible to hit the skin of a human being or an animal to injure or make him suffer. The speed of the lanyard causes the end to reach such speed that it makes a popping noise. In BDSM relationships, flogging is a strong symbol of dominance for the one performing it. Flogging is almost always performed lightly, so as not to seriously injure the person being beaten.
Florentine: two-handed whipping and whipping technique.
golden shower: see Golden shower.
gang bang:The gang bang (derived from the English gangbang) is a sexual practice where a passive subject has a sexual relationship with several partners, simultaneously or in succession. It is therefore a particular form of group sexuality. Messalina, wife of the Roman Emperor Claudius, has remained famous in history for her escapades which, moreover, led to her being executed on the orders of her husband in 48 AD. suite of 20 partners, but this record of the time was not approved like those of today. Nowadays, gang bangs are practiced mainly in swinger or libertine clubs, where we see women having sex with many partners (from 10 to 20). However, the biggest heterosexual gang bangs of modern times are performed by porn actresses. Here is a non-exhaustive list: 1995: Annabel Chong, American, 251 partners in 10 hours 1996: Jasmin St. Claire, American, 300 partners 1999: Houston, American, 622 partners in 7 hours 2002: Klaudia Figura, Polish, 646 partners 2003: Marianna Rokita, Polish, 759 partners 2004: Lisa Sparxxx, American, 919 partners 2005: Alicia called 'You're so good', French, 987 partners.
gokkun:Variant of bukkake, gokkun is an onomatopoeia, which would translate into French as 'slurp', that is to say the noise one makes while swallowing. In the Japanese porn industry, this term refers to swallowing semen, which is a variant of bukkake in the sense that men systematically ejaculate into the mouth of the person, who then swallows all the semen.
Gynarchy:Gynarchy is the exercise of power by women. A political regime is said to be 'gynarchic' if the legislative, judicial and executive powers are in the hands of women. Gynarchy is also a social and family system that gives primacy to women. Gynarchy is based on concepts of gynosupremacy, matriarchy, female supremacy, beliefs in a Supreme Goddess, and the absolute power and authority of women over other animal species, including the human male.
hedonist: Person who makes pleasure the goal of life.
hanky code: Code originally used in Gay Leather. The Hanky code is a color code (used on bandanas, or leather bracelets to indicate one's BDSM interests (Bondage, Boot black, fisting, etc.) at a party or in a bar: a black bandana in the left pocket indicates "I would like to have some hard SM practiced on me"
hard limit: hard limits of the practices that we do not want to implement in any case. The golden shower is a Hard Limit for me. (See also Soft Limit).
Humble:A humbler (from the English verb to humble: humiliate) is an SM accessory used in cock and ball torture sessions. It consists of a ball cuff which closes on the base of the scrotum and is mounted in the center of a bar which passes behind the thighs at the base of the buttocks. The humbler forces its wearer to bend their legs and crawl on their knees, since attempting to straighten up would cause a pull on the scrotum which would constitute considerable pain. Decked out in the humbler, the slave is forced to present the anus to his master who can dispose of it as he sees fit. Due to the strength of the muscles of the lower limbs, the humbler can cause irreversible damage and should be used with care. Damage can also be caused by prolonged wear.
Impact Play: Any kind of activity where you hit someone with something. This includes the badine, the paddle.
Undecided / undecided: Who does not identify with a particular role.
Infusion of the scrotum:The infusion of the scrotum consists of immersing the bursae in a small container containing water heated to a high temperature. It is supposed to cause temporary sterility, as sperm cannot withstand excessive heat.
Masochistic: Someone who finds pleasure in pain.
kajira: A Gorean slave / kajirus: A Gorean slave.
Kinbaku:Japanese Bondage. Kinbaku opens on its own, its delicate glossy paper placed on a sober support, in front of a black background. The eye stands slightly higher than the edge of the table, looking at the three-quarter pages, the screen like a diamond. The illustrations, as the pages slowly follow each other, all turn out to be in black and white, with each of them having attached a short text inscribed in italics. These texts try to show poetry, to further increase in the mind of the voyeur the blurring of the photos and the black background behind the table. In one image, a reclining woman, whose photo of the reclining body appears to have been taken of her own face. We observe its white and round belly, marked on the right of the navel with two small black quotation marks. And this damned comment which would be poetic, which I imagine pronounced in a tone of voice, flowers at its side, the weed. The milky skin is unaffected by any defect, immaculate and devoid of any unsightly body, from the belly to the legs, with the single exception of the dark quotation marks. My eye stays level with the table. It swells as it dries, forcing me to press on the heavy dark circles. Let my head explode in thirteen galleries, thirteen closed doors to open and the short hook will be completed. The bonds that unite us are indestructible and are constantly tightening in the metallic darkness, the suffering, our games.
fart: Person who wants to play and / or be treated like a pet.
Kinky: naughty, out of the ordinary.
Kinkster: Indicates a person who enjoys and practices BDSM-related activities.
Knife Play: Games including the feeling of knives or the fear of knives.
Erotic enema:The enema consists of the injection of a volume of water or other liquid into the colon, by means of a cannula inserted into the anus, or into the vagina (but in the latter case, we speak rather of vaginal douche). The enema should not be confused with the administration of rectal laxatives, often incorrectly called enemas. Enemas, then known as enemas, were widely used in the 17th and 18th centuries, when few remedies were known. Klysmaphilia is the erotic use of the enema.
Lactophilia:Sexual attraction for breastfeeding women, and everything related to it (breastfeeding bra, feedings, breast pump, jet of milk coming out of the nipple) or a bottle.
Leather Man/woman/Daddy/Top/Bot/Boy/Girl: A “leather” person with a fetish or preference for leather and/or who embraces the traditions and protocols of the leather community.
Little: Person who takes the role of a child or acts as such in a relationship.
Maieusophilia:Maieusophilia refers to sexual attraction to pregnant women in general. From ancient Greek: Maïeutiké (the art of giving birth) and Philia (love of). Long ignored and repressed, this sexual attraction was considered out of the ordinary due to educational taboos. Many men and women believe that sexual intercourse during pregnancy is harmful to the child, while sexual intercourse is still possible if there are no medical contraindications. Other prohibitions are religious or moral: some religions consider women impure during pregnancy. Some people mistakenly equate maieusophilia with fetishism, fetishism being rather the expression of attraction centered on objects. Some maieusophiles are also lactophiles and as far as female breastfeeding is concerned.
master or mistress: Person who seeks the exercise of power, authority or control; usually with a slave, in a M/s (Master/sub) relationship.
munch: Event usually held in a bar or restaurant, without dress code and without pressure: It does not involve games or sex and allows you to meet members of the local community.
Mummification: wrap all or part of the body of your partner to constrain and develop the sensations felt. (See Vacuum Bed).
Mommy: A woman who takes a protective role in a BDSM relationship.
Needle Play: Games including needle feeling or needle fear.
Nuts-crackers:The nuts-crackers (literally nutcrackers) make it possible to exert strong pressure on the stock exchanges. It can be two boards connected by four screws that can be tightened or more complex devices such as metal tubes having in their center a large screw welded at its top to a metal part in contact with the purses.
Ondinism:Ondinism (or urolagnia) is a paraphilia characterized by strong erotic arousal experienced by drinking (or making people drink), or by covering one's body (or covering one's partner's body) with urine. In some people, this practice is related to SM. A variation of this practice is to urinate in one's underwear and clothes, sometimes in public. This practice is also known by the diminutive golden shower. It is generally considered safe, the urine being sterile in healthy people. However, there are risks in the event of illness, in particular urethritis. Other side effects like skin rashes can appear in skin sensitive to urine. The etymology refers to undines, water nymphs in Germanic mythology.
Paddle: small board of wood and leather that can take many forms and is used for spanking.
fart: Person who wants to play and / or be treated like a pet.
pet play: Role play where you can take the role of a real or fictitious animal, in the behavior and actions or take the role of a trainer or a healer.
Nipple clamps:Nipple clamps are sex toys used by sado-masochists and in BDSM practice. The goal is to apply a more or less strong pressure, and more or less controlled, to the nipples, creating a stimulation that can range from a gentle tightening to the sharpest pain. There are simple classic clamps whose spring force will be chosen according to the desired intensity. Some can hurt if of too poor quality or if chosen from a deliberately SM range. These same models are sometimes equipped with an adjustment screw authorizing a limitation of the closing of the jaws in order to measure the pressure. The "clamp" models are by definition matched with notches giving progressive tightening. Some clamps do not have a clamping spring: the pressure is then finely adjusted by a clamping screw. All the clamps can be associated with chains or weights (sometimes very heavy) intended for severe games. These forceps are also suitable for vulvar lips.
Piercing- tee ringsyour
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Nipple rings are intimate jewelry, more or less sophisticated, aimed at highlighting the nipples. They are accessories used in BDSM practice and in sado-masochistic practice. Nipple rings are usually metallic or rubberized (comparable to the ends of eyeglass cords). However, it is titanium that is used the most for its unparalleled quality. In the catalogs of piercers, one also finds gold jewelry, embellished with stones if necessary... The fixing models as much as the shapes are diverse. From the simple ring for piercing, to sophisticated shapes (covering the areola with delicate arabesques for example), passing by elastic bands; they can be associated with chains, chains, or other necklaces. Some models include various suspensions (gems, beads, weights).
Piercing - frenum
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A frenum piercing on the front of the penis (in lithotomy position) through the frenum. A series of parallel frenum piercings constitutes a frenum ladder. The piercing usually takes 6 weeks to heal. A period of one month in addition to the healing time is also recommended before stretching the piercing.
Primal
: person who does not follow a tradition and wishes to evolve in alternative directions, without pre-established rules or pre-defined protocols, by creating his own way of life. Both self-taught and amateur, curious, open, looking for a dimension that is both playful and respectful.
Primal Predator / predator
: Primal person who seeks to hunt and capture his prey (literally and figuratively).
Primal Prey / Prey
: Primal person who seeks to be hunted and captured (literally and figuratively).
Pony
: Who identifies with a pony or a horse during Petplay.
power exchange
: see exchange of power.
Sensory deprivation
: deprive someone of one or more senses, using a gag, a helmet, or mittens for example. The goal is to multiply the sensations received by the other senses.
Princess
: person who needs special attention and care to the point of being spoiled.
pups
: Who identifies with a puppy or a dog during a Petplay session.
Queer
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English term which originally means "strange", it has been used many times to pejoratively refer to gays, lesbians, transsexuals, bisexuals, etc. It is in fact a movement fighting against patriarchal and sexist oppression. Its aim is above all to have a right to difference recognized.
RACK
: “Risk Aware Consensual Kink”, acronym appeared in response to the SSC to indicate consented practices and an attitude oriented towards security but which includes a greater risk.
rigging
: in the context of the practice of shibari, the way we call the riggers.
Rope Top
: In Shibari, or rope-based bondage, the rigger.
Rope Bottom: In Shibari, or rope-based bondage, the attached.
Wartenberg Roulette: Wheel generally made of stainless steel, fitted with a handle measuring about twenty centimeters in length, attached to a wheel itself made up of small spikes radiating around one or more hubs. This medical instrument used in neurology for the clinical diagnosis of certain sensitivity disorders is used in BDSM for games on sensations.
Pin wheel:A nub roller has enough nubs to feel like pinholes, but not so sharp that they puncture the skin.
sadomasochist: Person who enjoys both inflicting and receiving pain and/or humiliating a partner physically and/or emotionally.
Sadistic: Someone who enjoys giving pleasure by inflicting pain on their partner.
Safeword: security word established before the start of a session and which allows a session to be paused. The safeword must not be a trivial or common word and allows the submissive to shout "no" or "stop" when he still wants the session to continue. It is also common to use a color system: Red for "stop", "orange" for "it's not going very well", Green for "yes continue" (and beige, the color of the ceiling "I'm bored ").The safeword is an emergency signal, thumbs up! We stop! of the SM game which, used by the person who submits, indicates to the partner that he must immediately and without discussion interrupt the action in progress, and deliver it from all possible constraints as quickly and cautiously as possible. As a substitute for the English safeword, the more French-speaking veto is sometimes proposed, which was, in ancient Rome, the formula used by the tribunes of the people to oppose the decrees of the Senate. The right of veto, in the SM, designates the possible possibility of categorical refusal that the person who is being dominated can oppose to an action that he dislikes, and should not, in this sense, be confused with the security code, intended, him, to alert the partner of a potential danger of which he would not be aware. Some people choose to abolish the safeword in their games, too often omitting the distinction that exists between right of veto and security code, the principle then returning, pell-mell, to depriving the tribunes of shouting Veto as well! in case of disagreement, fire! when they see a fire threatening to destroy the senate. In order to avoid any confusion with possible pleas which would be simulated within the framework of the SM game, the partners generally agree on a magic word which will be unambiguously recognized as a verbal safeword. Stop! , For example. Or safeword! , thumb! , veto! , pity , or simply the first name of the dominant person, which quickly calls for the abandonment of embodied roles, or even a color coding inspired by red lights. As for non-verbal safewords, made necessary by the use of gags, a currently widespread practice consists, for the one who dominates, in placing a bunch of keys in the hand of the person he is depriving of speech: that this one drop it on the ground, and the emergency alert will be implicitly given, or the right of veto invoked. Security code or right of veto, the safeword is always to be considered as calling for a reaction of the highest urgency, whatever the situation, and however innocuous it may seem in the eyes of the one who controls the events.
Session / scene: Describes a BDSM play time.
Sensualist: A person with a strong interest in the pursuit of pleasure provided by sensations.
Shibari: Ancestral Japanese art which consists of tying and suspending generally naked people using ropes. Coming from Hojojutsu, it emphasizes the technical and artistic side, even spiritual, where the man communicates with his model, whether it is a naked young woman or a century-old tree.
Sissy: A submissive man who adopts hyper-feminine outfits and behaviors.
Soft Limit: Set of practices with which one is not comfortable and which one does not wish to practice a priori but which could be the subject of sessions and which could be explored.
Submitted: Person who seeks submission or letting go, by giving control of the situation to a dominant or a domina in a D/s relationship.
Submission: Action to submit, to obey, to give up one's independence
Subspace: State of the submissive, when the constraint, the pain, and the pleasure allow him to pass in "automatic pilot" and not to worry about anything other than sensations.
sub-drop: After an intense, mentally and physically tiring session, the submissive may be tired, cold and have difficulty coming back to reality. This descent will not last long but depending on the intensity and duration of the session, a slight depression can last for a few hours, or even a few days.
Suspension: Lifting all or part of the body using ropes, hooks, or metal and leather equipment.
Erotic suffocation: See Breathplay.
Slut(the term is then not used in a pejorative way): Sexually liberated person, having affairs with one or more partners, according to his wishes and without bothering with social proprieties. (We sometimes also speak of Pain Slut, a person who likes pain and Rope Slut, for a person who likes to be tied up in ropes).
Spanko: Person with a great interest in being spanked or spanked.
Spanker / Fesser: A person who likes to spank.
Spankee / Spanking: Person who likes to be spanked.
SSC: “Safe, Sane, and Consensual” describes a safe, healthy and consensual BDSM oriented towards safe and consensual practices which differentiates it from an abusive relationship.
Switch: Person who appreciates both sides of a D/s relationship depending on the mood, the partner or the situation.
Swinger / Swinger: non-monogamous person having sexual intercourse with multiple partners outside their couple.
Tawse:A kind of band of thick leather split half the length into two or three strips, which was used in Scotland for corporal punishment. You can find them in some specialized stores for erotic purposes.
top: During a session, role of the one who practices actively practices (for example the one who handles the whip) and who gives the sensations.
topdrop: The psychological and emotional state in which dominants can sometimes find themselves after a session. The moment when the adrenaline no longer flows through their veins, when they relax, when fatigue sets in and when they can feel sadness and abandonment.
Topspace / Topfrenzy: In the dominant the state of all power and euphoria, of not wanting to stop.
Trampling:Practice which consists of trampling on your partner more or less violently, barefoot or with heels. In general, this practice is most often requested by masochistic and or fetishistic men.
Urolagnia:Said of the sexual arousal resulting from the sight or contact with urine. It appears that the mere pleasure of urinating during sexual exchange can lead some people to orgasm.
vacuum bed: A latex envelope in which you slip before sucking in all the air. It helps to constrain the body and increase the sensations felt. (See mummification).
Voyeur: Person who likes to watch other people in a sexual context without having any physical interaction with them.
Vanilla: Said of a person who does not practice BDSM (sometimes called "chocolate").
Water sports: see “Golden shower”.
water bondage:Water-bondage is a sexual practice related to bondage which forces one of the partners to various tortures related to water. We can divide this sexual practice into several varieties, which sometimes intersect: the severe shower. a more or less powerful jet of water is directed at the erogenous zones of one of the partners. the enema (or anal enema) consists of injecting a greater or lesser quantity of water into the rectum of one's partner (not considered by all to be water-bondage) the vaginal enema, also called vaginal douche, is practiced similarly with, this time, water injected into the vagina. temporary deprivation of air by short drowning, to be exercised with caution. the water-burning (hot water) consists in exciting by the application of very hot water (the most practiced, the waterass-burning).
wrapping:Anglicism used in SM, from the verb to wrappe meaning to wrap. Art of mummification using rolls of stretch film, cellophane, adhesive, latex or fabrics in a kind of cocoon. To be avoided without the presence of very experienced people in this field because the risk of hyperthermia, strangulation, embolism, asphyxia or other slippages are numerous, requires, among other things, permanent supervision to avoid any risk of suffocation or of dehydration.
Wax Play / Candle Play: Game featuring candle wax of more or less high temperature poured on the body of the subject.
Wet and messy:Wet and Messy is a practice of clearly fetishistic English origin which consists in covering a body, generally female, with food, creamy or semi-liquid.